Have BIG ideas
and then LIVE up to them!
It's true - if you only think
small thoughts, then you are likely to only achieve small things, but
if you dream on a BIGGER scale, then you are much more likely to achieve
those big dreams.
It is all about setting the
direction of your energy - the more positive you are, the bigger the
energy flow in the direction you want to go. It really does come down
to "what you believe" is "what you get". So believing
(and I mean really believing - not some half-hearted wish) that you
are going to be an astronaut/doctor/artist/slim is exactly the energy
that is needed to make it happen. How many times have you heard of a
successful person saying "for as long as I can remember - I always
wanted to be ..."? Those people started out in life with a conviction
of who they were going to be - what a powerful way to get what they
want out of life!
Perhaps those that didn't
have such a strong intent, and that have been ambling along from one
thing to another might be feeling a bit concerned by now, that they
might never achieve anything. Are you thinking that you will never make
it, or have what you want out of life?
Well, it is never too
late to start - as soon as you believe it - you can have it! And
that's the trick - BELIEVING it.
However, with all those past
experiences to go on, of "not having" or "not achieving
much", it's going to take a very big leap of faith to start and
truly believe now. For starters, you are going to have to ditch negative
attitudes about what you think you are capable of, including what others
have told you, and re-learn some new positive thoughts.
Incidentally, how many times
have you also heard about people who only got their act together AFTER
someone had told them that they were a loser, or wouldn't amount to
much? For them, proving someone else wrong was their biggest motivation
to get going or maybe it was just the wake up call they needed to show
themselves what they really could do, if they tried.
Now, once you've got started
with this new belief - whether it's I CAN BE SLIM, or I WILL BE A DOCTOR,
or I WILL CREATE MY WILDERNESS RETREAT - you have to remain committed
to your belief, in order to get to where you are going. Generally, people
can often get themselves to the starting point on their own, but slip
back into doubt and uncertainty after the initial push. That's where
motivational help comes in - such as in the form of the slimming clubs
who provide motivation by measurement, sharing with others in the same
situation or additional goals to aim at. These days, motivational coaches
are also becoming more popular - they provide support when your own
motivation (ie belief and commitment) starts to wane.
If you've been down this
road a few times already, you may be wondering where you've gone wrong.
Well, let's stop and think about what you are trying to do. If all of
your life, you've been an "also ran", gone with the flow and
followed other people's lead, it takes a big shift internally to suddenly
change your ethos to leader, achiever, go-getter!
Now is the time to enact
your belief in a manageable way.
That means that you need
to put your belief into action in a way that you personally can handle.
For example - if you have
a big idea that is "you are going to dig a whole paddock".
You can pick up a spade and just start digging. However, at some point,
your muscles will get tired, your stomach will get empty and your body
will need a rest. Your big idea is now starting to look unattainable
today, and motivation might be wilting, especially if your neighbour
has got half of their paddock dug already! This is the point that many
give up with reasons such as "obviously I haven't got what it takes",
"I can't keep you with ...", "I gave it my best shot"!
Is this your pattern in life? You get so far and then get disheartened
and stop or change to do something you think you CAN achieve? Perhaps
you've gradually reduced your estimation of what you think is achievable?
First of all, comparing yourself
with others can be very disheartening - we are not all the same, we
have different physical and mental abilities and therefore you usually
do yourself a disservice with this comparison. If your goal was to dig
the paddock, then it doesn't matter if your neighbour can do it more
quickly. You don't need to add the extra challenge of digging it faster
than anyone else (unless this is your true goal of course, but then
you're playing a different game!).
Another issue is impatience
- "I want X and I want it now!" Staying power is what is needed
in order to achieve your goal - life isn't all instant gratification,
sometimes it takes longer - ask an Olympic athlete how long they
train every day.
However, you can bring your
goal a lot closer by working out a realistic way that you can achieve
it, with YOUR body and YOUR circumstances. Now, don't let FEAR get an
opportunity to creep back in here - it's not a quick get out clause
for your past negative belief system, just a realistic facing of facts.
You can only dig for so long before needing a break, you will work better
with a good spade, the weather may make a difference to how effectively
you work. These are factors to consider and to work with or around.
So in our example, of digging
a paddock, giving yourself some interim goals or marker points - such
as "I'll dig up to that point and take a break" or "I'll
dig one row every day" is a balanced way of progressing towards
your goal. You also know that as long as you keep at it, then one day
you will reach the other end.
This approach also gives
you an opportunity to learn as you go. Each time you reach a way marker,
you have just achieved what you set out to do - pat yourself on the
back, admire your handiwork so far, see how quickly the dug portion
is growing. Very soon you will have done more than you have left to
do. You will probably also notice how your muscles are developing, as
well as your confidence growing and that now you are setting your way
markers further apart.
Consider your growth in self
belief as a metaphorical equivalent of physical muscle development -
the more you practice ACHIEVING, the more you achieve. The effect is
cumulative. Remember, each time, you need to push just that bit further
than you did the last time.
You need to have an aim
that is slightly out of your reach in order to stretch yourself to reach
There is one more aspect
to achieving your goal, that takes your BELIEF to another level altogether
and that can ultimately produce much faster results. For this you need
to take your BELIEF to the level of KNOWING. This helps to bring all
the things that you are going to need to help you attain your goal,
ready in line at the time you need them.
KNOWING that something
will be there when you put your hand out to reach it is a powerful energy
to work with.
To help understand the subtleties
between believing and knowing, compare the difference between knowing
it was sunny yesterday and believing it will be sunny tomorrow. If you
live in a warm, dry, arid climate, then the expectation of a continuance
of sun is probably much stronger than if you live somewhere with high
rainfall. Pre-disposition based on past events has already set your
expectation and your level of BELIEF. Just as in your own personal life,
how you have been in the past, colours your expectations about what
will occur in the future.
Consider, though, that in
both cases, there is the same image in your brain of a sunny day, with
the only difference being one of time. What evidence do you really have
that it actually was sunny yesterday - did you experience it in order
for it to be in your memory? Did someone tell you it was sunny? The
newspaper corroborates your view perhaps? Although, it could be that
you just dreamed it was sunny, or what you experienced, no one else
did - say the clouds skirted around your house and the sun shone on
you all day, but your neighbours got rain. We tend to believe things
more strongly when they are in the past than the future, citing various
other evidence to corroborate what we believe.
If you can transfer that
same sense of knowing that you have about the past, on to what you believe
for the future, then you will almost certainly bring about the desired
outcome. And, of course the more people who also believe the same thing,
the more that belief is reinforced - just as someone else in the same
place experiencing a sunny day reinforces your own view that it was
I know how effective this
can be from my own experience of emigrating to another country - it
took me just 2 months from making the committed decision. That was the
first step - commitment to my decision - I KNEW that I was going. I
KNEW that whatever I needed would be available to me to make it happen.
I arranged my visa, set a date, booked my ticket, worked out a plan
of action and then set about selling my house, car, furniture, everything
barring personal items. Plenty of people told me I couldn't do it -
and yes it was hard work - but I KNEW differently and KNEW that I could
achieve it. And I did.
So I come back to the opening
"Have BIG ideas and
then LIVE up to them!"
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